My friend Liz put this on her blog, and I just thought it was so funny, esp considering we are about to have number 3. And I must say, it definitely holds true for baby #1 and baby #2 in our house. Can’t wait to see what happens with #3!
General Rules: Difference between first and third born children!!!?
Being a parent changes everything. But being a parent also changes with each baby. Here are some of the ways having a second and third child is different from having your first.
1st baby: You begin wearing maternity clothes as soon as your OB confirms your pregnancy.
2nd baby: You wear your regular clothes for as long as possible.
3rd baby: Your maternity clothes ARE your regular clothes.
Preparing for the Birth
1st baby: You practice your breathing religiously.
2nd baby: You don’t bother practicing because you remember that last time, breathing didn’t do a thing.
3rd baby: You ask for an epidural in your 8th month.
1st baby: You pre-wash your newborns clothes, color-coordinate them, and fold them neatly in the baby’s little bureau.
2nd baby: You check to make sure that the clothes are clean and discard only the ones with the darkest stains.
3rd baby: Boys can wear pink, can’t they?
1st baby: At the first sign of distress – a whimper, a frown-you pick up the baby.
2nd baby: You pick the baby up when her wails threaten to wake your firstborn.
3rd baby: You teach your 3-year-old how to rewind the mechanical swing.
1st baby: If the pacifier falls on the floor, you put it away until you can go home and wash and boil it.
2nd baby: When the pacifier falls on the floor, you squirt it off with some juice from the baby’s bottle.
3rd baby: You wipe it off on your shirt and pop it back in.
1st baby: You change your baby’s diapers every hour, whether they need it or not.
2nd baby: You change their diaper every 2 to 3 hours, if needed.
3rd baby: You try to change their diaper before others start to complain about the smell or you see it sagging to their knees.
1st baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics, Baby Swing, and Baby Story Hour.
2nd baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics.
3rd baby: You take your infant to the supermarket and the dry cleaner.
1st baby: The first time you leave your baby with a sitter, you call home 5 times.
2nd baby: Just before you walk out the door, you remember to leave a number where you can be reached.
3rd baby: You leave instructions for the sitter to call only if she sees blood.
1st baby: You spend a good bit of every day just gazing at the baby.
2nd baby: You spend a bit of everyday watching to be sure your older child isn’t squeezing, poking, or hitting the baby.
3rd baby: You spend a little bit of every day hiding from the children.
Cereal – lots and lots of cereal – Rice Krispies, Rainbow Rings, Cocoa Puffs, Peanut Butter Pows
Monkey Brains Raspberry Oatmeal
Amigo’s Mexican Restaurant
The Thai House
Starbuck’s Soy Hot Chocolate
Olive Garden’s Pasta Fagioli Soup
Five Guys Burger and Fries with Cajun seasonings (That should have been listed first!)
Notice most of these are restaurants. Not a good thing when finances are tight. If only….
Throwing up. (had to put that first. not as bad as I was, but still happens every few days)
Restless Legs (it’s back again this pregnancy and wakes me up in the middle of the night)
Not being able to decide what sounds good to eat.
Having your tendons and ligaments stretched (esp the ones you didn’t even realize you had)
Pain when you sneeze from above mentioned sore ligaments.
Not So Bummers –
No Ladies Days (that’s what we call it) for 9 months!
Getting to wear new-to-me clothes (thanks to those who let me borrow maternity clothes!)
Having an excuse to take naps.
Feeling the little thing move around inside you (although sometimes this can be a bummer)
Eating snacks at 11:00 at night (yet, I was known to do this before pregnancy, but now it is more excusable)
Realizing I am going to have another cute Nat or Nicko!
SO, apparently I am of advanced age with this third pregnancy. I know, right?! I knew there were a few additional things that they might test for, but man…they have a whole rigmarole to take you through. In fact, with the hospital set-up that I am on, they just make your appts without consulting you first and then mail you a letter or call you with a recorded message telling you when your appt is (and you just hope it works out). There are more ultrasounds, blood work, and tests. Today I just learned that I have an appt for genetic counseling. But when I found out, I questioned what that was for anyway.
Apparently it is all optional, so I opted out of the genetic counseling. Here is my philosophy that I explained to the lady – I just turned 35 like 3 months ago. I don’t really think my genes have depleted so quickly in just a few months. I mean, if I were a few months earlier and was still 34, they wouldn’t have me go through all of this. And plus, even if we did go through with all the testing, the results or assessment of probability would just freak me out. And it’s not like we would abort or anything anyway. Plus I feel like it is an unnecessary process for someone like me to charge my insurance for and thus contributing to the rise in insurance rates. Especially with the fact that most of these tests just tell you “your chances” for birth defects and they are very known for false-negatives. I wonder how many other people out there opt out of the extra testing?
The Lady of Advance Age
We are in one of those stages right now where I just can not figure out what in the world to fix and eat for dinner. Anything I can possibly think of to make here, just sounds horrible. So tonight, we headed to one of the kids’ favorite places, Steak and Shake, for dinner.
We had the nicest waitress. I told her of my struggle with being pregnant and not knowing what I wanted to eat, as I was trying to choose between a hamburger or a spicy chicken sandwich (a big hit for me lately). She completely empathized with me and told us of how she has four kids. Through out our time there, we inquired more of her and began to learn more of her life.
Turns out she and her family just moved here 2 months ago because her husband was laid off in Alabama. They came here to be closer to an Uncle. I asked her how her kids were adjusting to the move. She tells us how they are not doing well at all with it because they are all staying in a shelter. Apparently her husband goes to work during the day and she comes to work at night. But even then, she is only able to get 20 hours a week. The economy is definitely being hard on them!
Jason and I were so moved listening to her tell their story. A few times my eyes welled up with tears thinking of their family of 6 sleeping in one room in a shelter. It was neat because it wasn’t like she was having a pity party and pouring all this on us, but as we asked questions, she just opened up and shared from her heart. She had such a positive spirit about it all and even mentioned how God would take care of them. It was convicting because as I anticipate hardship for ourselves this next year, I get very fearful of how the Lord will provide for us. Yet, I am reminded tonight and through another friend’s story of God’s provision that I just read, that He will take care of us. We will make it with His help!
This year has been a great year of Christmas Celebrations. My favorite was attending a “Walk thru Bethlehem” Live Nativity. I have always wanted to see one. And it was fabulous! Definitely need to keep that as a tradition.
Another tradition that we have done since I moved here 9 years ago, is attend the “Snow Falling”. And now that we have kids, they really love playing in the “snow”. It cracked me up to because on the way there, Natalie was recalling almost every detail of what we usually do there…the snow, visit Santa, ride the train, etc. That girl has a memory!
We have also had Nick’s preschool Christmas program, a few other Christmas parties, and Thursday will be Nat’s program and a trip to Atlanta to visit family. And then my most favorite of all celebrations, the Christmas Eve service at Church! I love how it helps to keep my focus on the true reason for the season – Jesus!
Here are some pictures of our Celebrations so far –
Lately I have been having lots of thoughts about how much we need to buckle down with our kids before this next baby comes. Do you think it is unrealistic to think we could have our kids be responsible, thoughtful, helpful, and kind to each other before this next kid comes? The other day I actually thought about how to implement strategies to help accomplish this in the next 6 months. Here is what I figure we need:
Fruit of the Spirit Sticker Chart
Begin giving allowance/teaching them money management
Seriously though, I do find myself overwhelmed by the thought of how chaotic our lives can seem right now and yet there will be another one soon. I even found myself praying the other day about my kids fighting. “Lord, I know that sibling conflict is common. But please could you make us an exception. I can not live like this!”
Then there is the whole money thing. Nicholas said to me the other day, “Mommy, why don’t we have a big house?” To which I said, “Well, for one, you need more money to get a bigger house. And, two, God has given us exactly what we need and just the right space for us.” And then he said, “Well, just get more money.” Oh, if only it was that easy!
So, I’m not sure if anything will really change or not. But a girl can dream!